I don't know about you, but in my family and in the families of the Moms I've worked with, there is a common thread of family secrets keeping us stuck. Many of us establish a tendency of not being as open and honest with others as we could throughout our lives because of it. Mantras like
"Don't tell nobody"
"What happens in the family, stays in the family"
"This is family business"
...these are all so prevalent that you probably even read them with a certain voice in mind.
It's possible that keeping a close lid on your innermost thoughts and feelings is second nature to you.
It's possible that your parents were inconsistent when it comes to revealing their feelings to others. If that's the case, you've been developing your ability to keep secrets as you've grown older. And it's not only impacting your emotions and behavior but also affecting your relationships. Especially your relationship with your son.
You may have become so used to keeping your affairs a secret that you wonder what's the use in sharing now. Why does openness matter?
Transparency means showing the "true, authentic you" to those around you. By being open and honest, you allow others to see who you are and what drives your thoughts and actions. Living openly also reveals a level of confidence. What most people fail to realize is that those secrets, those bottled up emotions, that trauma, and that stress...it all has to go somewhere. And do you know where that is?
And now science can prove to you how the body stores the memory of those events within your cells and it becomes all types of pain and disease. If you don't believe me, check out the book, The Body Keeps The Score by Bessel van der Kolk.
Living a free and full life is possible when you learn to be open and honest with yourself and others.
Here are a few tips to help you quit hiding your true self and start living your best life, openly and passionately:
Living a transparent life frees you from the burden of self-doubt. As a result, you'll feel more at home in your own skin. Plus, your confidence will grow and you’ll be motivated to enjoy all the benefits that a transparent existence brings.
Start today to rid your life of any secrecy you show toward others. You’ll feel better when you begin living with transparency. Your body and your mind will thank you for it.