Are You Encouraging Your Son's Sense of Entitlement?
May 20, 2022
It's natural to want your son to succeed, but overindulging or protecting him might have the opposite effect. Some analysts believe there is an entitlement epidemic affecting the next generation of adults' ability to have realistic expectations and communicate with others. Overparenting, in any event, can erode a child's self-esteem and make him less resilient.
So, how can you strike a balance between caring for your son and assisting him in becoming a self-sufficient and appreciating adult? Take a look at these tried-and-true methods for transforming a sense of entitlement into healthy self-respect.
Tips for Working with Your Son
It's natural for kids to believe that they are the center of the universe while they are young. It is your responsibility as a parent to teach children to respect others and to meet their demands.
- Set boundaries early on. Consider how your son's future classmates and coworkers may react to his demands if you're inclined to spoil him. Boys who learn to work together and compromise will be better prepared in the future.
- Make the rules clear. Children require stability. Regulate your son's bedtimes and monitor how much he watches tv. It will assist him in following rules when he starts participating in school sports or learns to drive a car.
- Share responsibilities. Collaboration can be taught through household duties. Children will learn how to contribute to a happy home.
- Write a thank you note. Birthdays and holidays can spark gratitude instead of greed. Make writing thank you notes enjoyable for your son. Allow him to pick the stationery and include drawings if he's having trouble finding the right words to use.
- Teach your son financial responsibility. Even small children can begin to comprehend the basics of sticking to a budget and putting money aside for special occasions. Purchase a basic phone plan for your son and allow him to use his allowance to contribute to the bill if he wants to continue using it.
- Encourage candid conversations. When parents are too exhausted to spend quality time with their children, they may purchase items for them. Take a trip without watching movies or playing video games. Sing songs or count road signs (like in the old days before tech).
- Value learning and effort. Encourage your son to have a positive self-image. Instead of focusing on grades and incentives, commend him for learning new things and taking chances.
Strategies for Mom
Because your son will emulate you, consider what kind of role model you're being. Digging into your own sense of entitlement can be eye-opening if you're honest with yourself.
- Give yourself credit. Each of us wants to feel special. and do things our own way sometimes. Being willing to put aside your own preferences is a big first step. Congratulate yourself on being aware of your tendencies and open to changing them.
- Make giving a practice. You'll quickly realize that restraining your sense of entitlement isn't a big deal. Giving to others makes you feel better than striving to achieve your own desires. Plus, your interactions with loved ones will most likely improve and become more peaceful.
- Make your life easier with simplicity. We see ads everywhere pushing us to spend more. But when you learn to simplify things and keep your focus on material possessions in check, the quality of your life can actually improve.
- Assume responsibility and hold yourself accountable. When things go wrong, do you take responsibility for your actions or do you blame others? If your son witnesses you holding yourself accountable for your own decisions, it'll encourage him to stop creating excuses.
- Consider seeking help. Ironically, feeling deprived as a kid can also contribute to an excessive sense of entitlement. If you require additional support, speaking with a counselor, therapist, or coach can be beneficial.
You can love and care for your son without feeling obligated to finish his homework or buy him a bunch of pricey toys and clothes. Managing entitlement issues will lead to a better and more fulfilling life for your son.
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