Loving and Respecting The Woman God Has Made You To Be

God created the heavens and the Earth and everything in it, including you. That means, no matter how you feel about yourself at any given moment, you are still worthy of love and respect. So why is self-respect so important? 


When you have self-respect, you actually fully love yourself. You love yourself for who you are on the inside and not just because of what you do, what you look like, or what you're capable of. When you have self-respect, you take pride in who you are and you know that you’re valuable. 


On the flipside, without self-respect, it’s difficult to have honesty, confidence, and integrity. Instead, a person without self-respect may feel the emotions of anger, guilt, blame, shame, or regret, and they sport secretive behavior because deep down they feel unworthy. Beyond that, if you can’t respect yourself, how can you respect others and how can others respect you?


Putting Your Needs First

Too many people put the needs of others before their own. Although this is admirable, in order to respect and serve others, you need to meet your own physical and emotional needs first. Meeting your own needs first is an important part of respecting yourself. 


Here’s a story of Tanya, who realized too late the importance of respecting her own needs:

Tanya has an adult Son that she did everything for. She would always put the needs of her Son before her own. Whenever her Son needed help with something, big or small, Tanya would always be there even if she had to rearrange her own schedule.


It worked for a while, but then Tanya began to feel that the constant help for her Son was becoming emotionally taxing. It was almost as if Tanya became a servant to her Son. She wasn’t Tanya; she was just her Son’s “Mom.” Even her Son began to think of her that way.


Eventually, Tanya began to feel like her Son was taking advantage of her and these feelings escalated into resentment. Tanya started to make excuses to get out of helping her Son and this put a huge strain on their relationship.


What happened? 


Tanya was trying to achieve self-respect and thought she could only gain self-respect by putting her Son’s needs before her own. She was trying to prove she deserved respect instead of looking into herself and finding the great things about herself that already deserved respect.


Because she didn’t even respect herself, her Son didn’t respect her either.


If Tanya respected herself and her own needs, she might have communicated her feelings to her Son and put her own schedule first sometimes. Tanya would’ve felt the confidence to do the things she needed to do for herself in addition to doing things for her Son. After all, he is an adult who should be capable enough of handling things on his own.


Fundamentally, Tanya’s self-respect would have allowed her Son to respect her also. There’s a good chance that Tanya and her Son would have a better relationship if she had only looked inside herself and realized that there was already a lot to respect. There’s nothing wrong with stepping up for others, but you must have a solid sense of self-respect for yourself first. 


Respecting the Mind, Body, and Spirit

Because you’re a unique human being with strengths and great qualities of your own, you need to respect your entire mind, body, and spirit.


Don’t look in a mirror and say, “I’m not attractive” or “I’m so stupid.” That’s not what matters. Don’t you think your loved ones love you unconditionally? Of course! They love you because of what’s inside of you. They respect you for who you really are and you need to respect yourself too.


You need to respect yourself because you have an inner being that demands your patience, love and respect. 


If you find yourself to be unattractive, unintelligent or uninspired, throw that mentality out the window! Respect your body because it is the home of your mind and spirit, then harness that spirit and love it because it is who you are. Always remember, you are a child of God. And God has made no mistakes in creating you.


Loving your body, mind, and spirit is the key to gaining self-respect. It is then that you can extend yourself out to meet the needs of others. 


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